Is it you?
the girl who knows lustful eyes are on her back
is it you?
talking to your female friends
when a man enters
you reveal your choice every time
the man comes first
women only afterward
is it you?
thinking they don’t notice
when your eyes drift
from female conversation
to a man’s deeper tone
as if attention were garnered toward
the male of the species alone
don’t you see? you put down women
with every favor you give a man over
she
and whilst you may say
no that’s not true I am an equal opportunist
an observer will note
the change and variance of your attention
you are a creature of men
owned by their regard
choosing them first in every scenario
sadly undermining
the worth of women
it is surely what lets us down most
the value we place on each other
being less than the other gender
call me an old embittered dyke
biased in her choice
if you need to
but truth speaks
louder than worship
and I must ask
is this you?
KAPOW!!! heh, amazing of course. So well put together.
I’d been thinking on it for a while and it came together, was talking with Holly about how girls do that to each other and how it undermines everything so I have to credit her for the idea as much as anyone.
That used to be me. It wasn’t easy to recognize it, let alone start to overcome it. We are brainwashed from a young age about our place, and where our attention should focus. This is beautifully written! And a gentle(ish) nudge that, as women, our loyalties need to lie with our sisters. ❤ Thank you!
Well I kinda got your point here its nice post and obviously plot was unique for sure. I do believe girls should be more united.
If I said greatness it still wouldn’t do justice to describe your words.
The other half of the scenario is that men can walk into a conversation between women and expect that the women will stop talking to listen to what he has to say. It’s a form of hierarchy that men and women fall into accepting. Or not. The best way to protest is to say ‘Do you mind? You’re butting in.” Which most of us are too polite to say. I just turn and walk away. If the others are happy to play the fawning minions, I’m not.
Well said! Didn’t think of that, so true. If we as women respect our friendships equally we raise ourselves by the lessening of bad habits
Good! Thank you
I’m rarely in that situation now. Most of my sociabilité is with dog people and they don’t do that, but is used to make me furious when I’d be waiting to pick up the kids outside the school talking to a friend or friends, and a man would amble over and take over the conversation as if we’d all just been waiting for a man to tell us what to talk about. It’s pathetic to let yourself be walked over like that.
I think certainly as we grow older women realize the importance of solidarity. BTW, I just received your first book in the mail!! I only wish you were nearby to sign it…and, of course, so I could give you a big hug! ❤
This is SO good! It describes perfectly someone I used to know (an old “friend”) who would ditch me every time a guy came into her life. Yes, us girls need to stick together!
That’s too bad, that someone will devalue another for the sake of a deeper voice or asymmetrical facial features.
More because of gender, women valuing men over other women treating them with more interest and worth, you know?♡
Right?! So glad it resonated with you I feel strongly about it, good to know others get my drift! Thank you♡
Yay!♡♡♡《thank you!》 Totally agree btw even my grandma at eighty valued men over women it was sad
Argh!! I would have been so mad!! Good example! I have actually witnessed that scenario outside schools!
You flatter me, thank you dear one
Admire you greatly for seeing this and being more! Not easy at all so true it’s socially conditioned that’s so accurate ♡♡
It shocked me when I was first involved. Talking to a strong-willed woman bringing up two kids on her own, seemed like the kind who would put him in his place, but no, she backed down and turned her attention to the man.You don’t have to be a rabid feminist to find that kind of behaviour degrading.
You’re welcome love
Yeah I know.
Odd. That might have been the generation. I certainly realize it’s the opposite…
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Dayuuum! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
😉 YOU MAKE ME LAUGH A LOT I REALLY LIKE THAT!
So so so good! Well done!
Thank you very much!!♡
prose b4 hose lmao. beautiful ❤
HAHAHAHA! !!
Have you ever seen the movie The Comfort of Strangers, with Helen Mirren, Natasha Richardson, Rupert Everett and Christopher Walken? Towards the end Helen (whom I love, love love and whom I met briefly once, one classy lady)and Natasha have a scene which reminds me of your poem. Helen’s character basically says that things will only start happening once a man appears, whatever they say to each other is unimportant without a man’s presence to lend it weight. Great poem as always, I just love your work. Three cheers for Feather! Please be flattered, I don’t do enthusiasm.
I’m obsessed with Helen Mirren so what do you think? 😉
GREAT example PERFECT exactly what I meant. I like Christopher walken too he’s weird
Tell me EVERYTHING about meeting Helen Mirren!!!!
What a powerfully accurate poem. The eyes slanting away says it all
Yes! Oh I’ve experienced that! Thank you.
She is the one famous person I met (I haven’t met many, but a few) who really truly impressed me. Yes you have.
I love the bit when she says they have stepped across into the other side of the mirror (obviously… read my latest poem, another mirror piece).
Damn. She’s extraordinarily and so beautiful in that real and deeply sexy way
We are mirror fans just read it and emailed you plus just read the one about the lover an old one that was incredible!
Of any i should wish to meet it would be her so you done well!
Agreed I cannot praise her highly enough, she is great in many movies. The Long Good Friday, Caligula, The Thief etc, Prime Suspect… and she looks so much better without an cosmetic surgery
Well I was the help but she treated everyone lovely.
Thanks I am blushing
Always thought provoking ❤
This is such high school behaviour isn't it…some things just embed in psyches. The older I get the less I care. I had a really close friend growing up who always ditched me for her boyfriends…even on our planned girl nights. Ugh! But her self worth issues were sad.
Plus, I think the older we get we become more aware of the nuances and complexities. I personally enjoy the cross gender connections, sometimes we miss things looking at our own gender because we assume certain things.
But I have long discussions all the time with my husband about male ego… 🙂 I had a really great chiropractor once, I was complaining to him about some things to do with relationships etc and he said, "Vanessa, you need to understand something. Men have massive egos, and I am so sorry for it…" long conversation ensued… but of course, this doesn't apply to all. I could go on haha but he was lovely and self aware and knew that he dominated conversations etc etc.
(I also had a lot of guy friends as a child because I had little patience for a lot of the drama that seemed to stick around girl groups… and of course, this was part of the issue.. oh the ironies abound really…)
Side note, hope you're well!
I agree. I have met many men who have not got massive egos too but many who have. But that’s not why women worship them it’s because we devalue ourselves and over value them in favor of other women and put them on a pedastool which is probably why they are egocentric true – it all leads back to that doesn’t it? So true
You just really are THAT good
The Peter Greenaway film is superb so true
Thanks Feather.
Isn’t it just. A baroque masterpiece.
Oh lord the first time I saw it … I nearly exploded. It was everything. How can a modern film be everything? And yet it was.